5 Feb
My teenage son called us from a party for a ride home?
Posted on 2010 under teenage drinking and driving | 39 CommentsIf your teenage son called you in the middle of the night from a party and needed a ride because he was drunk, would you be upset and punish him? He told us he was staying the night at a friends house (not the friend that had the party) but actually went to this party. I know that he did the right thing by not driving, but he broke two rules of not lying and not drinking. How would you handle this?
you should praise him for his honesty and responsibility
a young man who knows when he has had too much to drink, and instead of hiding it calls you directly and asks for help? thats great
if every child was as responsible as yours, there would be far less automobile accidents every year
you have done a good job in raising your son
by Fo Shizzle, on February 5 2010 @ 8:21 am
just watch any teenage movie and you’ll find the answer.
References :
by Nicholas M, on February 5 2010 @ 8:36 am
Well don’t be mad, he could have drove home, flipped his car killing himself and anyone in the way.
References :
by jessielynn2322, on February 5 2010 @ 9:01 am
I say you did the right thing by calling us for a ride home but we have to punish you anyway because your broke our rules. Ground him for a week or two.
References :
by Lenny, on February 5 2010 @ 9:42 am
Ya should be mad at him for not drinking responsibly.
References :
by Tater tot, on February 5 2010 @ 10:18 am
Just ground him its that simple.
References :
by paradigm81, on February 5 2010 @ 10:58 am
First off he has to understand how he got to the point where he was irresponsible. Make him aware of the foolishness and problems getting to this point can be. You are the parent. Teach the boy.
Second, I am amazed that you were given the trust and he was responsible enough to call you for assistance. That is a good thing. Commend him and discipline him for each of his actions.
References :
by hayesbrat, on February 5 2010 @ 11:09 am
well honestly id beat my kids ass for lying and partying without permission and drinking underage. wheather he called or not id be mad and i know my husband would beat our kids ass if they pulled a stunt like that. my dad would have had me thru a wall if i tried that crap. i would have the police go get my kid and take him to jail for underage drinking as well and scare the crap out of him before i got ahold of him and then i would report everyone that was at the party and have them all arrested and go after the parents whose house it was.
References :
by E! ♥, on February 5 2010 @ 11:27 am
i would look at the bright side,
he didnt get in the car with other drunk kids.
but yes my son would probably be grounded
References :
by Lucy, on February 5 2010 @ 11:32 am
I would punish him, but not too harshly, because although he made a mistake, he did the right thing by calling you and you don’t want him to be afraid to do it again, but hopefully he learned a valuable lesson and it won’t happen again.
References :
mother of two boys
by Anne, on February 5 2010 @ 11:59 am
i would make a small punishment, very small… but reiterate the rules.
References :
by Austin, on February 5 2010 @ 12:32 pm
i would tell him that you didnt like how he lied to you AT ALL and how you do NOT approve of what he is doing and your dissapointed in him, but at the end of your lecture say "but im proud and happy that you did the right thing by asking for a ride instead of driving drunk" this whole lecture will make him feel bad for what he did, but if he ever does it again in the future he will do the same thing, you dont want to scare him into not wanting to get caught so that he gets into a car and crashes.
References :
by вσℓ∂ѕтαтмєηт, on February 5 2010 @ 12:44 pm
Well I would ground him for one weekend for the lying. As for the drinking he called you and was responsible enough not to drive drunk.
References :
by Kevin, on February 5 2010 @ 12:56 pm
you should praise him for his honesty and responsibility
a young man who knows when he has had too much to drink, and instead of hiding it calls you directly and asks for help? thats great
if every child was as responsible as yours, there would be far less automobile accidents every year
you have done a good job in raising your son
References :
by MartianBeerPig, on February 5 2010 @ 1:18 pm
does he make a habit of this? if not, then you might give him a freebie because he was responsible in not driving. you need to let him know it was wrong, but it could have been worse.
if it’s happened before, then you might consider revoking some privileges.
References :
by Scooty, on February 5 2010 @ 1:43 pm
Honestly, don’t punish him, give him a very stern talking to. But that’s seriously one of the most responsible and bold things a kid can do at that age, he obviously trusts you and is very aware of how fragile his life is.
Commend him on his honesty and responsibility, but don’t punish him unless it becomes a reoccurring theme.
References :
by ducki160 =] <3 <3, on February 5 2010 @ 2:00 pm
well, im almost a teen..=] and i’m sure he feels bad for doing what he did, maybe ground him for a couple days. hey, at least he didn’t drive home, hit someone, flip his car, survive, and end up in jail! good luck!
References :
by Kira DUE 9/05/09 WITH A BABYGIRL, on February 5 2010 @ 2:26 pm
Okay so he called home for a ride drunk and said he was staying at a friends house and went to a party, its not that big of a deal. I think he did the right thing by not driving and he called you for a ride. Yeah he said that he was staying at a friends house but im sure if he said he was going to a party you may have not let him go. I mean think about it, you were a teen once and may have done the same thing, I know we all have been there done that. I think even tho he lied he was responcible for telling you he needed a ride home because he was drunk because if he would have gotten behind the wheel he may not be here today! So no I dont think you should punish him!
References :
by Christopher D, on February 5 2010 @ 2:45 pm
I would be upset with my daughter for drinking, but I would be MORE glad and respectful of her for making the right decision to call for help.
Talking with you kid about the dangers of bindge drinking may be more appropriate than admonishing them for the drinking.
If you come down too hard next time he may not call you, it may be the police or worse.
You should PRAISE them for making the right decision to call you after making the wrong decision to drink.
References :
by Popculture, on February 5 2010 @ 3:27 pm
yes, give him a punishment, but don’t punish him for calling you. he did the right thing by not driving, or even getting in a car with someone who had been drinking.
References :
by Danni, on February 5 2010 @ 3:36 pm
if it’s his first time, DON’T punish.
talk to him about it and let him know he did the right thing by calling you but he did lie and therefore his trust level with you went down. really just talk to him because he could’ve ended up sleeping in a driveway or at a strangers house. it’s good that he knew well enough to call you.
i think this situation ended the right way, just talk to him about reprecussions maybe not being allowed for a weekend or two or maybe tell him you’ll have to speak to parents for now on.
References :
personal experience
by ") Anonymous "), on February 5 2010 @ 3:58 pm
I think that his punishment should be his terrible hangover the next day.
The reason I don’t think he should be grounded is because he was responsible when he called you instead of driving home. All kids have at least had 1 drink before they turn 21. So at least he did the responsible thing and called you.
References :
by KAT, on February 5 2010 @ 4:18 pm
Be mad he lied but dont ground him. he wont call you ever again or tell you whats going on. dont ground him. trust me, that wont make it better. Keep close tabs on him. call and check with parents if hes staying somewhere…dont tell him you called them. ask for addresses "just in case something happens". Im 19 and ive done all this partying stuff for years and my mother and father grounded me and i rebelled. my brother is 17 and now doin all that stuff but they are handling it a different way by checking up, he still gets grounded for grades and stuff..it seems to work n hes not as bad as i was. trust me i learned and grew up. i wish they woulda done what they are doing to him, to me.
References :
me and my family
by OpenMinded, on February 5 2010 @ 4:32 pm
Your son found himself in a tough position: Does he call is parents for a ride, stay the night or find another way home?
He did the responsible thing by calling his parents. Its important to make him not regret this choice he made.
If you feel the need for some consequences, do so lightly. If you are harsh on him, He will regret calling you and probably wont if he finds himself in that place again. Be proud of him, even if its only a little.
References :
by SaVvY, on February 5 2010 @ 4:54 pm
Ground him for a week for goin 2 the party & reward him with sumthing for callin u like mayb a later curfew.
References :
by sprinkles the piglet!, on February 5 2010 @ 5:05 pm
I wouldn’t be upset. I’d be glad that he took the responsible initiative to call me for a ride. I may be upset that he lied, but when I’m older and I have my kids I am not going to punish them.
References :
by amber123, on February 5 2010 @ 5:22 pm
well.. first off he did lie to you… but he was smart enough to call you and say he needed a ride home… he was obviously up for the consequenses. so punish him for lying. The drinking thing.. teenage guys are going to do it… but he still needs to be punished. Im not saying to tell him its okay to drink but tell him you would rather him not lie to you about it… heck after his first really good hangover he probably would rather not drink anyways.. and let him know the importance of not drinking and driving or doing stupid things.
References :
by Xelfer, on February 5 2010 @ 5:27 pm
This is a hard one because he did do the right thing. He called his parents. instead of riding with a drunk friend or driving his self. so u could ground him for like a week or a couple days but u cant be to hard on him. he did do a good thing.
References :
by EMILYY., on February 5 2010 @ 6:10 pm
Ermmmm give him a warning,
you’ve probably lost all of your trust.
make him feel bad
and he’ll think twice next time,
actually
it depends on how old he is?
if hes like 14 or younger,
then i would ground him
x
References :
by Hopee. (:, on February 5 2010 @ 6:32 pm
I don’t think you should be to angry. At least he called and asked for a ride instead of driving. At least give him something for being responsible. But, I think you should still punish him.
References :
by A.RAY01, on February 5 2010 @ 6:38 pm
do something.
it can end up harmful, very
my cousin had to go to rehab 3 times.. hes just
17 and he got a dui.
talk to him.
punish him.
do what you have to do but do something.
my other cousin also got killed by a drunk driver.. i know he didnt drive but there is a chance he could one day. i dont want to see that to happen to anyone. i know how you feel.
im only 16 but i learned alot thru this situation. and i have never had a sip of alcohol or any alcoholic drink. and im proud of it.
References :
by қαіτıуηツ, on February 5 2010 @ 7:14 pm
He made a mistake, that’s true. But he was responsible enough to know not to drive home.
I would warn him, but don’t punish him. He made the right choice, by not breaking 3 rules.
References :
by broken</3, on February 5 2010 @ 7:45 pm
just talk to him about all the consequences of drinking.
don’t punish him much this time because at least he did call home.
if it happens again, then i would considering more punishment.
References :
by Banana Lover, on February 5 2010 @ 8:02 pm
I would act calm about it for the rest of the night, but the next day I would probably punish him for disobeying his parents. Nothing too big though because he still did the right thing by not attempting to drive.
References :
by Liz, on February 5 2010 @ 8:13 pm
From your other questions I know that you use spanking in your family. He should have his butt beat for going to a party and drinking. Praise him for calling you, but get that belt out and make sure he doesn’t drink again until he’s of age.
References :
by MyMarriageRocks, on February 5 2010 @ 8:35 pm
I’m almost 28 and don’t even have kids so I may not really know what I’m talking about, but thought I would give my opinion. I would first be thankful that your son trusts you enough to call you when he is drunk and saying I need a ride home from a party. Having said that, that doesn’t excuse his behavior! And I would tell him that. Try not to go ballistic though because if he does go out again and ends up drunk needing a ride home then doubtful he will call you and he may end up riding with someone who is drunk or driving himself. I would of course punish him however you see fit. And let him know you are not allowed to drink, your underage, it is dangerous etc.. And how he was wrong for lying. And let him know that because of his drinking & lies he is going to be punished. But also on the other hand show a little mercy or praise and tell him I’m glad you didn’t drive home drunk or ride in a car with someone who had been drinking. You did the right thing by calling me, though you should never of put yourself in this situation.
References :
by Tiff~, on February 5 2010 @ 9:23 pm
I’d put him on freaking house arrest, even though he did the right thing in calling you instead of doing something more stupid.
Sit him down at the kitchen table with a bunch of stuff about liver cirrhosis, alcoholic hepatitis, and brain damage. He’ll soon see the light.
References :
by australiansareawesome, on February 5 2010 @ 10:09 pm
well at least hes smart and called you to say can you drive me home instead of killing other people and possibly himself. you should give him a small punishment.
References :
by Steph, on February 5 2010 @ 10:38 pm
Just ground him for a week or something and be happy that he didn’t drive home himself and flip the car and die. He was responsible.
References :
My Brain!!
by Delay101, on February 5 2010 @ 10:54 pm
Punish him for drinking, lying, and doing something over-seen and original, as if it was a teen movie.
But at the same time, You’ve got to give him credit for not driving home.
I’d punish him.
2 week’s worth of grounding is good.
References :